Author Archives: Robyn Kievit Kirkman

Reclaiming the Quiet of December

In 1993, I came across the piece, Desiderata, by Max Ehrmann, and it has been one that I have re-written in many journals ever since. I think the words can relate to many things in our lives, including our relationships with food and our bodies. Take a read and bookmark this page for another cold winter day. I hope reading this passage will help you reclaim the quiet of December.


Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

Max Ehrmann, Desiderata, Copyright 1952.

Robyn’s Monthly Morsel: It’s Not What You’re Eating It’s What’s Eating You!

Self-Compassion-Based Eating Awareness Weekend
January 11-13, 2019. Concord, MA

What: Group training in overcoming overeating with psychotherapists Jean Fain and Elise Hoblitzelle.

When: Jan. 11, 5:30-7:30 p.m.; Jan. 12, 9:30 a.m.-4:30 p.m.; Jan. 13, 9:30 a.m.-4:30 p.m.

Who: For everyone, everywhere struggling with everyday eating issues, from mindless eating and yo-yo dieting to compulsive overeating and binge eating. Open to newcomers and returning participants.

Cost: $599, includes 2.5-day workshop and restaurant lunch. (Does not include travel and lodging.)

Information/Enrollment: or