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Intentions Over Resolutions for 2018 & Beyond!

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Last week I posted a question across my social media platforms

‘Imagine if we obsessed about the things we love about ourselves…?’. Right?

Resolutions come from a place of needing to change a negative (to me). Yesterday, I found a funny, but cool and poignant definition of ‘resolution': A useless list of things that may or may not get accomplished in the first few days of the new year. Read: How to ruin your fun related to eating and other fun pastimes. I couldn’t agree more.

Think instead about obsessing around something you love about you and combine this with your new year’s intention(s). This is a much better recipe for success.

Here are some of my own examples. I’m trying to stay obsessed with loving our kids and our blendedness around meal times. When I relate this specifically to dinner it has to consider nut allergies, non-gluten preferences, dislike for cheese and shellfish, and keeping cooking time concise including enough food for 2 active teenage boys.

Instead of becoming overwhelmed about it all and resolving to make it different, I’m embracing it, and going with what the kids’ dietary restrictions, likes and dislikes are. It feels more calm. (With help from my Instant Pot, rice cooker and steamer allowing me to get dinner going and give the littlest one her bath!). Thank goodness none of the children are requesting specificities with requests like organic, cage-free or grass-fed or I would resign as head chef in our home!

Another, sort of continuous, new obsession I’m trying to love about myself is I cannot run regularly anymore. I used to run. A lot. 30 miles a week was my norm with frequent races. I went for a run a few weeks ago and loved it, but this was followed by days of discomfort in my lower back and lower joints. When I initially had to change exercise habits a few years ago it felt excruciating to give up so much running. Now, I’m obsessed with other things my body can do.

More weights and lifting quite a heavy amount. Awesome yoga poses that take a lot of practice. Tennis continues to surprise me as well – and humble me ;).  The keys, for me, at 45 years old are a lot of variety with my exercise and realizing I did have to break up with running. This may be a year I go back to running if my body feels good enough, but for now, my intention is to be open in other ways around exercise.When I think about my clients over this year I had two write and say particularly poignant things over the past few weeks. One is a woman I have worked with for just this year. She had battled binge eating and bulimia but also was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes in March after we started working together. Throughout our sessions, she has normalized her hemoglobin A1C which is the measure of her blood sugars over 3 months. Her primary care provider has also taken her off the medicine she was taking for her diabetes as she has been able to focus so strongly on eating mindfully, movement, and decreasing stress.

Another client I have worked with for many years for her eating disorder said in last week’s appointment ‘I’m not even thinking about safe foods anymore. It feels good to be in charge of my body in a different way. I can look back at the eating disorder and say wow that was such chaos.’

Two women, two different stories. Two forms of success and calm around food and their bodies. Why? Their intentions. Not resolutions. To resolve, lacks empathy, sounds negative, and is likely to fail. Intentions are strong and full of light.

They incorporate obsessing about loving you and can shine well past January of the new year as I hope yours will for 2018.

Here’s the challenge – can you intend to love yourself obsessively in 2018?

Here are a couple of other pieces on intentions from like-minded colleagues:

A podcast on setting intentions by Summer Innanen

Krystal Thomas wrote about intentions for 2016 

Melissa Groves, RDN, wrote about 18 Ways to Hack Your New Year’s Resolutions 

Mandy Enright, is a dietitian and yoga teacher (on the JERSEY SHORE!) and wrote about What You Can Do MORE Of in 2018 

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Good. Bad. Sorry. Should. Can’t. And…

I have often suggested clients not use these words around food or their bodies: good, bad, sorry, should, and can’t. We don’t need to ‘should’ on ourselves. Calling a cookie ‘bad’ is just a sin. Making a food seem ‘good’ is still food shaming (even though the word ‘good’ is affirming in its definition). Saying you’re sorry you ate something? Please…. And can’t is just, ugh. I suggest we use ‘I’m trying’ rather than ‘I can’t’.

A few months ago, I heard my 5 year old daughter start to use the word ‘healthy’ around food and in other situations. She was starting to label foods as ‘healthy’ or ‘not healthy’. This stopped me in my tracks. I immediately let her know that all foods can be ‘healthy’ and asked where she heard this. I don’t label foods as healthy or unhealthy and it annoys me that we do at all. I understand needing to know and finding balance, but a 5 year old? The older kids at ages 11, 16, and 17 don’t use the word healthy to describe food. They know this is like the inverse food police coming down on them!

I’ve been reminding my daughter that all foods, are indeed, healthy. I like her to have whipped cream (and sprinkles sometimes) on her hot chocolate. I love to bring her local treats from bakeries in our area when I pick her up from school. We bake together and she and her dad bake together as well. I have taught her, purposefully, that Graeters Raspberry Chip ice cream really is the BEST. On purpose!

If we look to next week’s celebrations without the words good, bad, sorry, should, can’t or even healthy I think it will make the ‘food holiday’ easier. If you want to indulge on Thanksgiving, enjoy it. If you want to choose calorie saving with recipe alternates and smaller portions that works too. The point is that ‘all foods fit’. One day, one meal does not define you.

I’ve definitely moved to a non-diet approach. It makes sense to me because I’ve learned that diets not only don’t work, but are quite harmful. I’ve seen this for years in nearly every adult human I know. For this reason the term “weight loss” always made me uncomfortable. To me, if we don’t love our body now, we’re not going to even like it later. Less pounds or not.

Here are the promised links from past e-Newsletters that will round out the rest of this this month’s e-Newsletter.

Thanksgiving, The Eating Holiday, How to Cope

Skip Thanksgiving? Why There’s a Better Alternative

Grateful For My Village

My best to you and yours with the beginning of the holiday season. 

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