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Robyn’s Monthly Morsel

MorselAs a nurse practitioner in private practice (and a registered dietitian – I do both), I have an MD who is my ‘collaborating’ go to. John Sharp, MD and I have been working this way together for over two years. John’s recent TEDx talk is amazing and related to his second book, released just a few weeks ago called The Insight Cure: Change Your Story, Transform Your Life.

John and I communicate frequently and I was able to ask him a few questions related to his new book.

Your last book, The Emotional Calendar: Understanding Seasonal Influences and Milestones to Become Happier, More Fulfilled, and in Control of Your Life seems very different from your new book, The Insight Cure: Change Your Story, Transform Your Life. What brought you to creating a steps book with the latter and what’s similar about the books?

What’s similar is that they both stem from my experience with patients and my interest in what I’m seeing and what I’m able to do about it. I always use this quote from Yogi Berra ‘If I hadn’t had seen it I wouldn’t have believed it.’ Both books came out of clinical work. I wanted to explain to myself what I was seeing and how I was able to help people get better with stories to engage people’s curiosity and interest. With the latter book I wanted to go deeper and work on what is the real problem – which is working on the more central problem and giving people the power to change.

Your recent TEDx talk was amazing and appeared to be a short version of your new book. Is part of the new book based then on your own journey? How long did it take you to get to this point and in disclosure of your own journey?

In our profession there is a lot of teaching and in general less is more. When I first had a therapist I wanted to know that I could relate to him – his past experience and little things that gave me some sense of a person. I’m open to some sharing in my work, but I wouldn’t share my TEDx story with a patient – it’s a good example of too much. TEDx experts said I had to make it personal but I felt, I’m a psychiatrist and I cannot really pull this all out, but it was a central thing that was worth sharing. After friends, school, and career I still felt inadequacy and I am happy to have had the TEDx coaches to reveal this in a way that was clear. The most interesting part is that the effort it took to condense the 200 page book into a captivating, eight minute TEDx talk was harder and longer than writing the book! It was amazing to do the work to craft a tight story.

Is there a certain type of person that you would recommend read your latest book (besides everyone)?

My new book is geared toward the general public who feels that something is not matching up. Maybe they are looking to their insides instead of their outsides. It is for anyone with curiosity about themselves, or senses that something does not exactly line up. It’s not that it’s easy to do the work but it’s appealing to do the work and edit one’s story to make it healthy. It’s for those looking to gain a life beyond what they thought was possible.

In light of the significance of Eating Disorders Awareness Week, I strongly recommend John’s book. To anyone struggling in this way, or to those who want to do the work to have the best life possible. You can find his first book here and his most recent book here.

Robyn’s Monthly Morsel

2ae280de-905d-451e-a902-c19b2bd97b25 Twenty three years ago I counseled my first client with an eating disorder in an outpatient setting. I used the same definition of normal eating then that I do now by Ellyn Satter a dietitian and family therapist who wrote this in 1983.

I’d encourage you to keep this nearby as part of your intentions around food and your body for 2018.

  • Normal eating is going to the table hungry and eating until you are satisfied.
  • It is being able to choose food you enjoy and eat it and truly get enough of it – not just stop eating because you think you should.
  • Normal eating is being able to give some thought to your food selection so you get nutritious food, but not being so wary and restrictive that you miss out on enjoyable food.
  • Normal eating is giving yourself permission to eat sometimes because you are happy, sad or bored, or just because it feels good.
  • Normal eating is mostly three meals a day, or four or five, or it can be choosing to munch along the way.
  • It is leaving some cookies on the plate because you know you can have some again tomorrow, or it is eating more now because they taste so wonderful.
  • Normal eating is overeating at times, feeling stuffed and uncomfortable. And it can be under eating at times and wishing you had more.
  • Normal eating is trusting your body to make up for your mistakes in eating. Normal eating takes up some of your time and attention, but keeps its place as only one important area of your life.

In short, normal eating is flexible. It varies in response to your hunger, your schedule, your proximity to food and your feelings.